Children with autism often find social situations challenging. They may struggle to start conversations, read body language, or play with peers. But just like any skill, social skills can be taught and practiced.
Using simple, structured activities, you can help your child grow in confidence, learn how to connect with others, and enjoy meaningful relationships.
Why Social Skills Matter
Strong social skills help children:
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Make and keep friends
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Work in groups
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Understand others’ feelings
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Express their own needs
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Succeed in school and community settings
While some children pick up these skills naturally, others—especially those with autism—benefit from extra support and guided practice.
How to Teach Social Skills Through Play
Children learn best when they’re relaxed and having fun. These activities can be done at home, in therapy, or in small groups. Keep the mood light, be patient, and celebrate every step forward.
1. Role-Playing Everyday Scenarios
Act out common situations with your child, such as:
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Saying hello and goodbye
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Asking someone to play
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Taking turns
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Dealing with frustration (e.g., losing a game)
Use toys, puppets, or simple scripts. Pause to explain body language and tone of voice. Let your child switch roles too—it builds empathy and understanding.
2. Emotion Charades
Write down different feelings like happy, sad, excited, or frustrated. Take turns acting them out using only facial expressions and body movements.
This helps children recognize and express emotions in themselves and others. Use mirrors to let your child see their own expressions.
3. Turn-Taking Games
Board games, card games, or simple sports like catch teach waiting, turn-taking, and following rules. These are great for learning patience and sharing attention.
Start with short games and slowly increase time as your child becomes more comfortable.
4. Conversation Cards
Create or buy cards with simple conversation starters like:
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“What’s your favorite food?”
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“Do you like dogs or cats more?”
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“What do you like to do on weekends?”
Practice asking, listening, and responding. Add visual aids if your child is a visual learner.
5. Story Time with Social Themes
Read children’s books that focus on kindness, friendship, or problem-solving. Pause to ask questions like:
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“How do you think the character feels?”
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“What could they do differently?”
Stories offer safe, low-pressure ways to talk about social behavior.
6. Social Stories
Social stories are short, personalized stories that teach specific behaviors or routines. They can cover:
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Going to a birthday party
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Joining a group at recess
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Asking for help
You can write one yourself using pictures and simple sentences to explain what your child might see, hear, and do in a situation.
7. Group Activities with Support
Small social groups led by therapists or teachers offer structured opportunities to practice skills with peers. These sessions may include:
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Guided play
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Problem-solving games
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Cooperative tasks like building something together
Group activities give children real-time experience with feedback and support.
Tips for Success
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Keep practice short and positive
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Use visual cues, timers, or calm-down signals if needed
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Praise effort, not just results
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Be consistent and model social behavior yourself
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Allow breaks and avoid forcing interactions
Start with simple interactions and slowly build up to more complex ones as your child gains confidence.
Final Thoughts
Building social skills in children with autism takes time, creativity, and care. By using fun, low-pressure activities, you give your child the tools to connect, express themselves, and enjoy being with others.
You don’t need to be perfect—just present, patient, and encouraging. Every small success brings your child closer to meaningful social connections.